Uncensored: A New Sexual Health Newsletter

Hey Friend! 

One of my biggest goals for 2025 is to commit to sending out weekly sexual health emails. But here's the thing—I have emails going out to my adult peers, my parent peers, and my teacher peers. That’s a lot of emails!

So, I’m trying something new: one sexual health newsletter—Uncensored—featuring sections for each of these audiences. Whether you’re here as a parent, an educator, or simply someone who wants to explore their sexual health, you’ll find something for you. Just scroll to what you need and ignore the rest (or read it all—you might fit into more than one category!).

Let's dive in and start chatting about how sex is a skill!

- Janelle

Table of Contents:

1. The Pleasure Perspective (For Adults Who Want More 😉) 
2. The Talk, Reimagined (For Parents Committed to Raising Sexually Healthy Kids)
3. The Lesson Plan (For Teachers Ready to Level Up Your Sex Ed Instruction)

Do you ever feel like you’re just not good at sex—or at least not as good as you should be? Maybe you think you don’t have sex often enough. Or that you should be able to experience an O through penetration alone. Or that getting there takes too much time and effort. 

Believe me when I say: I’ve been there. And let me tell you, the thing that changed everything for me was learning this simple truth: Sex is a skill.

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Mind-blowing, explosive sex doesn’t just happen—it’s something we develop over time, just like any other skill. And the good news? That means we can learn, improve, and shape our sex lives to be more pleasurable, fulfilling, and aligned with what we actually want.

Wanna dig into this more? I got you:

• 💡 Workshop: Unlocking Sexual Pleasure – Because pleasure is your birthright! [Join Here]
• 🎥 Video: What is Your Sexual Framework—The Key to Great Sex Starts with understanding this concept! [Watch Now]

So, what does this whole "sex is a skill" thing mean for you as a parent? Honestly? Everything.

Just like learning to drive, kids start building their understanding of sex, or as I like to call it their sexual framework, long before they ever engage in sex. But unlike driving, where they get hands-on, real-life experience for years before they drive, their understanding of sex is shaped almost entirely by performance—what they see in movies, music, social media, and even the jokes they hear.

And here’s the risk—almost everything they learn about sex tells them it’s easy, effortless, and mind-blowing. Even well-intentioned messages can be flawed. If we don’t step in and provide a reality check, they’ll develop their understanding of sex based on everything except what’s actually true, healthy, and meaningful.

That’s why ongoing, open conversations matter so much. And no, you don’t need to be a perfect expert—you just need to be willing to talk.

Here’s a great place to start:

• 🔗 Read: Anatomy is the best and easiest place to start The Talk
• 🎥 Watch: Five Ways to Talk About Sex Better Than Your Parents Did

Just like understanding that sex is a skill means everything for parents, it means everything for sex ed instruction too.

Because here’s the reality—you might be the only person in a student’s life providing them with authentic, genuine sex ed. That’s a big deal.

Our students are constantly shaping their sexual frameworks, but not from real, honest conversations and experiences. Instead, they’re built on the performance of sex—the messages they absorb from movies, TV, music, social media, jokes, and yes, p*rnography. These influences shape what they believe about sex, relationships, and their own bodies before they ever have personal experiences.

That’s where we, as sex educators, come in. Even something as simple as providing accurate sexual health knowledge has the power to completely shift a student’s understanding. It gives them the tools to build a sexual framework based on truth, not fiction.

Our role isn’t just to teach anatomy and how to prevent pregnancy—it’s to help students navigate the noise and misinformation so they can step into their sexual selves with clarity and confidence.

Want to bring this into your classroom? I got you:

• 🎟️ Workshop: How to Teach Skills-Based Sex Ed (Pay-What-You-Can) – [Sign Up Here]
• 📂 Free Lesson Plan: Defining Sexual Health

✨Janelle's Reading Corner

And just for fun, because I'm on a mission to get everyone to read romance, here are the books I'm currently reading*:

• Finally Finished: Onyx Storm (I started my required FW and IF re-read late + I've been super busy with work and the Disneyland Half Marathon) by Rebecca Yarros
• Currently Listening to: Relistneing to Onyx Storm 😜
• Currently Reading: Slap Shot by Chelsea Curto (but def start with the Love Through a Lens series)
• Next Read: Reel by Kennedy Ryan

*These are affiliate links. It doesn't cost you anything but if you make a purchase I get a small commission.

👋 Well, that’s it for this week! I hope this newsletter gave you something to think about, something to explore, and maybe even something to chat about with your people.

- Janelle