Hey Friend!
Welcome back to Uncensored—your go-to spot for real, relevant, and radically honest conversations about sexual health. Whether you’re here as a parent trying to raise sexually healthy kids, an adult on a journey to reclaim your pleasure, or a teacher shaping the next generation’s understanding of sex and well-being… I’ve got you.
This week, we’re digging into one of the most foundational (but often invisible) parts of sexual health: your sexual framework.
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Let’s get into it 👇
Table of Contents:
- The Pleasure Perspective (For Adults Who Want More 😉)
- The Talk, Reimagined (For Parents Committed to Raising Sexually Healthy Kids)
- The Lesson Plan (For Teachers Ready to Level Up Your Sex Ed Instruction)
Have you ever stopped to consider why you think what you think about sex? Why you feel the way you do about your body? Why pleasure might feel complicated—or even out of reach?
That’s your sexual framework at play.
Your sexual framework is the system of expectations, knowledge, norms, values, rules, and lived experiences that shape how you understand and experience sex, sexuality, and sexual health. And here’s the kicker: it’s not always working in your favor.
Most of us (myself included) inherited frameworks built on shame, silence, misinformation, and a lot of inaccurate media representations of sex. But guess what? You can rewrite it. You deserve to rewrite it.
👉 One step you can take today? Grab my free mini-course: 5 Ways to Make Your Sex Life as Spicy as a Romance Book
Because your pleasure matters. Your happiness matters. And reclaiming your sexual framework is one of the most powerful ways to prioritize both.
Your child is building their sexual framework right now. Yes, right now.
Not when they’re older, not when they’re “ready”—but today, as they take in messages from TV, TikTok, music, books, jokes with their peers, and yes, p*rn (directly or indirectly).
And here’s the thing—if we’re not actively and intentionally shaping that framework, something else is. And 9 times out of 10, it’s a performance that centers male pleasure and portrays women as passive, sexual objects.
That’s not the framework I want for my kids. And I’m guessing it’s not the one you want either.
The good news? You don’t need to be a perfect expert to make a huge impact. You just need to show up and start talking.
Here’s a great place to start:
- 🔗 Read: Anatomy is the best and easiest place to start The Talk
- 🎥 Watch: Five Ways to Talk About Sex Better Than Your Parents Did
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When it comes to shaping a student’s sexual framework, we’re often it. We are often the only adult in their life offering real, honest, medically accurate information about sex, consent, relationships, and their own bodies. That’s a huge responsibility—and an incredible opportunity.
Students are soaking up messages about sex constantly. But they’re not learning from reality. They’re learning from media performances—and they’re building frameworks rooted in medical inaccuracies, social power imbalances, and unrealistic expectations.
As educators, our role is to disrupt that narrative. To provide facts, offer space for reflection, and help students understand that their sexual health is about so much more than preventing pregnancy. It’s about connection, identity, values, and well-being.
Want to bring this into your classroom? I got you:
- 🎟️ Workshop: How to Teach Skills-Based Sex Ed (Pay-What-You-Can) – [Sign Up Here]
- 📂 Free Lesson Plan: Defining Sexual Health
✨Janelle's Reading Corner
And just for fun, because I'm on a mission to get everyone to read romance, here are the books I'm currently reading*:
- Currently Listening to: Fate of the Sun King by Nisha J. Tuli (on KU)
- Currently Reading: Start Your Engines (an F1 romance) by Rebecca Chase (on KU)
- Next Read: First Time Caller by B.K. Borison
*These are affiliate links. It doesn't cost you anything but if you make a purchase I get a small commission.
Well, that’s it for this month (because I can't keep up with a weekly newsletter)! Whether you're reflecting on your own sexual framework or helping shape someone else's, remember: awareness is everything—and you’ve already taken the first step.
You got this.
🫶 Janelle
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